I’ve got a really exciting announcement to make. I’m almost nauseous about it.
But first … I’ve made so many mistakes with women. It’s embarrassing.
I’m your average great guy, with three sisters, two amazing mothers and great relationships with them all. I’m great friends with women, but I ain’t no “friend-zone” kinda guy, either. I’ve had my share of great romance.
However, when I look back at intimate loves past, I see my backyard field of dreams filled with mounds of wreckage where too many beautiful possibilities have crash-landed.
What have I been completely overlooking all these years to co-create so much confusion, misunderstanding, frustration and agonizing heartbreak with women?
This is the exact question I have been exploring for 4 years, since my last chaotic relationship with a fascinating woman who decided early on she couldn’t really trust me.
It wasn’t because I cheated on her. I didn’t. I never even wanted to. She was the love of my life up ‘till then. But I didn’t know how to show up for her as a Man. I wasn’t ready to fight my own demons to win her feminine heart. I was an adolescent boy in a 35-year old man’s body.
So I ran from her, even when I stayed in the room. She felt my ongoing abandonment, and that’s why she didn’t trust me. Unfortunately, her way of dealing with this was to rage. And man, did she rage. I believe I was also a stand-in for every other disoriented man who had ever let her down, abandoned her, hurt her, misused, mistreated or dismissed her.
We treated each other as adversaries. Like countless couples, we ached to love – and be loved by – each other. But we too often made each other an enemy with the power to make us happy or despair.
I tried everything to make that relationship work. I took us to therapy and Landmark Education; I studied Byron Katie and read relationship books and anything I could think of. I worked on myself and begged her to do the same. I even went to Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous meetings, believing I was addicted to her crazy love over which I had no power. The relationship ended one Friday evening when I refused to participate in what I knew would be an angry phone call. We were done. That was that.
I was utterly heartbroken and devoid of hope.
I had tried everything. I needed SLAA meetings to escape.
How could I ever possibly experience the conscious, passionate relationship my whole being has been dying for?
Consider this: With a Masters Degree in Human Behavior (University of Oklahoma), I have been a passionate student of human potential and practical psychology since I was 10. I’d read all the iconic self-help and spirituality books and been to all the workshops. I was even headed to American University to study International Peace and Conflict Resolution to help bring peace to the Middle East, until a sexy French woman yanked me off that path and proceeded to kick my man-boy ass.
I am an intelligent, heart-felt man. I am profoundly educated about human behavior.
But no one ever taught me how to be a healthy mature Man in an intimate relationship.
My fathers didn’t teach me. My moms didn’t teach me. Self-help books never taught me. Nor did hero athletes, movies, politicians or my uncles.
Culture taught me that marriage is hard and that wedding rings make a woman hate sex and make a man give up blow-jobs for the rest of his life while doing work he doesn’t love to provide stability for his kids and the woman who won’t be doing the blow-jobs.
This can’t be … and not just because of the blow jobs.
Intimate relationships must have something to offer other than pain, resentment or boredom.
I was desperate to unlock the secrets to creating thriving, passionate, conscious relationships.
Well … I’ve found them.
Insight for men AND women … and whatever your sexual orientation.
Actually, it’s more like I’ve slipped past the dragon and found my way into a massive cave full of shiny, shimmering treasure boxes filled with golden keys that unlock the secrets of magnificent intimate relationships.
I know that’s a big statement. It’s not like I’ve discovered something no one has ever seen before.
But for the last 4 years I’ve been devouring the wisdom of teachers like Robert Bly, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Alison Armstrong, David Deida, Robert Moore, Douglas Gillette, Tony Robbins and others – at their workshops, in their books and online courses, and in countless personal conversations. I’ve recently coached over 100 people, exploring men and women’s deepest fears and desires around attraction, sexuality and intimate relationships.
All this brilliant insight, contrasted with my ignorance over the years, as well as what I’m exploring with all my friends, coaching clients and anyone who will talk about this stuff with me … well, I’m super excited to unlock all these treasures with you.
I’ve shared many powerful insights through my blogs.
There’s so much more.
In the past 8 weeks alone I’ve done 10 podcast interviews because people want more of this insight. I even attracted the attention of Sunrise Australia, the #1 Talk Show in Australia because of a blog I wrote on the One Thing Women Are Afraid of in Men.
I’m clearly tapping into deep wisdom that’s making a difference in people’s lives. I can’t wait to share more and more.
Thus … my exciting announcement:
Understanding Men / Cherishing Women
A New 6-Week Online Program
I’m creating a 6-week online program to share with you all the best stuff I’ve got on how men and women can come together in true partnership and create awesome relationships together. (or men and men … or women and women … what I’m going to share is bigger than gender)
We must stop acting as adversaries and start remembering we’re on the same team.
We truly love each other. We’re simply ignorant about fundamental forces and dynamics which can create persistent conflict.
I’m going to help you dispel critical misunderstandings that can cause stress in your relationships – even your relationship to yourself.
In the end, we all simply want to be our authentic selves everyday AND create inspiring, passionate intimate relationships.
I’m going to help you do that.
I want you to have this powerful content before the holidays so you’re even more empowered to have an amazing holiday season. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, what I’m going to share is so powerful it will help you better understand your lover(s), spouses, friends, even your parents and children … but especially yourself.
I’ll tell you more in the coming days. It’s not quite ready.
HOWEVER … I NEED YOUR HELP to make this program really strong. Before I finalize it, will you take this simple 60-second survey?
It’s Anonymous. Two Questions. 60-seconds.
Please take the survey now @ https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/HZLHXZP
I’ll be back soon with more. This is so exciting!